At least his head won't look like a bowling ball

Will was scanned for his helmet yesterday. I'm happy to report that he was a champ throughout the entire appointment.

When we got to the orthotist's office, Dr. Bob took some measurements of Will's head. Though his head grew quite a bit in the last month, his width to depth ratio stayed exactly the same, and his left to right comparison actually got a little worse. Dr. Bob said that's strong evidence that his head won't correct on his own. So helmet it is.

Each orthotic helmet is custom made and requires a custom mold. They actually used to cast each baby's head to make the mold. Can you imagine? Dr. Bob said he never did a cast without the baby screaming.

Luckily, Dr. Bob's office has this new scan technology that takes a 3D picture instead. No casting required. Will had to wear a white mesh bonnet with a sensor attached to the top. Then Dr. Bob took his fancy camera and scanned all around Will's head. Will had to keep his head straight throughout the entire scan, but he did great. He was too enamored with the duck puppet Dr. Bob's assistant had to look elsewhere.

We selected a solid blue helmet, as I plan to decorate with vinyl stickers from Bling Your Band. But today I got a call from Dr. Bob's office saying that their new helmet manufacturer doesn't offer any solid colors except pink (helpful). These were my choices of helmet designs:

Um, ew. Could those be any uglier? As Ben pointed out, many of them look like bowling balls.

I was so bummed. I mean, it's bad enough that my kid has to wear a helmet, but if I have to stare at an ugly pattern for 4 months, we're going to have real issues. Thankfully Dr. Bob's office contacted the manufacturer, who can also do plain white. So plain white it is, with some darling vinyl stickers.

Will gets his helmet next Wednesday, so stay tuned.

A sweet goodbye

I am a little sad to report that Will is now 100% formula fed.

Throughout my pregnancy, I was determined to be one of those mothers who nurses for an entire year. Breast milk is amazing stuff. It's free, nutritionally-sound and on demand. What's not to like?

But Will and I struggled with our breastfeeding relationship from the moment he was born. He wouldn't nurse after delivery, and struggled with getting a proper latch. We pushed through for three weeks, until I just couldn't take the pain and frustration anymore.

But breast milk was really important to me. So we started pumping (and pumping, and pumping). I pumped 6-7 times a day for four months. That's about four hours a day pumping and washing pump parts, which equals about 480 total hours or 20 whole days. If you figure I pumped 30 ounces a day for four months, that's roughly 3,600 ounces or 28 entire gallons of breast milk. I'm practically my own dairy.

I wanted to breastfeed exclusively for six months, but unfortunately I fell short of my goal. The thing about pumping, is that it doesn't stimulate your milk production as well as a baby does. So month after month, I made less and less. Until Will simply needed to eat more than I could produce.

I'm happy to report that he's thriving on formula, and in many ways I'm thrilled to have my body back. But it was difficult to stop breastfeeding entirely. It felt like I was giving up one of the fundamental things that made my baby my baby. It's very fulfilling to provide food for your child.

So last week, as my breasts filled with what would be the last of my milk, I nursed Will one last time. It was early in the morning and we were snuggling together in bed. He wasn't yet starving, so he snacked happily, gently suckling and patting my breast with his hand.

I had long ago mourned the loss of our breastfeeding relationship, but it was the perfect way to say goodbye. Goodbye to the rigid expectations I had set for myself, and goodbye to one of the most intimate moments between mother and child.

Five Months Old

Dear Will,

You had such a big month! So many new milestones, I don't even know where to begin.

Let's start with what is arguably the most exciting milestone to Mama and Daddy: sleeping through the night. You have slept for an 8-10 hour stretch on a few occasions now. We wish it was more consistent, but we are encouraged by the fact you can do it at all.

Your longer stretches of sleep came just a week after we introduced formula. I guess that isn't surprising, as formula stays in your tummy longer. Starting formula was a difficult milestone for Mama, but you don't seem to mind. You just love to eat (breastmilk or not).

We started working harder on tummy time this month. At first you screamed your head off whenever we laid you face down on the blanket, but day by day, you tolerated being on your stomach longer and longer. Now you're a tummy time champ, spending hours on your stomach every day.

With your newfound tummy time skills, you also rolled over for the first time this month. However, you seemed startled by it and have not repeated it since.

You are such a busy boy now, no longer content to be cradled in my arms. Granted you still want to be held, but you prefer to be perched on Mama's hip so you can see everything around you. You are reaching, lunging and grabbing for everything. Your hand eye coordination is getting really good (excellent even), though you don't always have the dexterity to hold objects in your hand for very long.

Your poor little gums hurt from teething, so you always seem to have your hands or a toy in your mouth. Though you have dozens of toys to choose from, you seem to prefer chewing on straps. Like the strap on your pacifier clip, or the strap that your favorite rattle dangles from.

You got a jumper and an exersaucer for Christmas, both of which are endlessly entertaining. You love turning yourself in the exersaucer, inspecting all the toys and trying to get them into your mouth. You're still trying to figure the jumper out, but when you get a couple of good jumps in you smile from ear to ear.

You get the giggles now, which just warms my heart. Silly sounds make you laugh and laugh. You love to be tickled on your neck and around your ears. When we tickle you, you scrunch your whole body up, tucking your chin into your chest. It's adorable.

We started baby sign language this month, introducing a few basic signs like milk, more, eat, diaper, up and airplane. The first few are basic need signs. But airplane? That's just because you love your airplane mobile so much.

Every night I put you to bed and I can't imagine loving you even one ounce more. But then in the morning you smile up at me and somehow my heart manages to grow even bigger than it was the day before. You are my pride and joy. I love you more than you'll ever know.

Love,

Mama

Helmet Update

Well, it looks like Will is going to need a helmet.

After a consultation with a neurosurgeon a few weeks ago, we were referred to a pediatric orthotist. The orthotist discussed Will's brachycephaly (flat head) with us in greater detail and took some measurements. He recommends helmet therapy for a cranial width to depth ratio above 93. Will's came in at an even 100 (so his head is as wide as it is long).

The orthotist would like Will's head circumference to be a bit larger before starting therapy, so we're waiting a few more weeks to cast the helmet. In the meantime, his office will work with our insurance company to try and get approval for treatment. Some insurers cover 100%, others not at all. We're hoping for at least partial coverage, since the helmet will cost around $3,000.

In explaining the three basic kinds of flat head syndrome, the orthotist said brachycephaly is what he would "hope" for his own children (provided you'd hope for such a thing). And as I pointed out, brachycephaly is clearly the sexiest of the "cephalies".